Loving yourself: the first foundation for a long and solid love story We can only give what we have, and having a deep and sincere love for ourselves in our soul lays the foundation for a healthy love relationship with others too .
The first step to truly love is to love yourself; feeling worthy of love and succeeding in life.
Why is it important to love yourself?
Oscar Wilde said that: “Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong love story.” Loving yourself means learning to recognize your own value, which does not depend on what we have, but on the way we face life to love ourselves unconditionally. If we don't learn to do this, we will continue to look for what we lack in other people, thus developing relationships of dependence, exploitation and manipulation. In this way we will perceive our value based on how others treat or evaluate us: a harmful addiction that will lead us to be complacent just to receive approval.
Don't forget that loving yourself is not an act of selfishness, as is often believed: love for others in fact always starts from self-love. Learn to accept strengths, weaknesses, virtues, limitations, become aware of what you are in a profound way: in this way you will take care of yourself and begin to understand yourself better without judgment or guilt towards the mistakes you have made.
Accepting yourself is a fundamental step to begin to love yourself unconditionally, so as to also love others without the continuous search for recognition, but in a true way.
Every time we don't accept ourselves we waste a lot of energy: our mood and consequently our happiness are affected. Accepting yourself is also important to increase your self-esteem by promoting personal well-being.
We are talking about a love that does not make you submissive, it is not about dependence or attachment to the other, it does not mean doing everything they ask of you with submission.
To love you must first learn to manage your emotions: if you love others without conditions, love will be part of your life and this will help you be happy.
Too often we are not connected to ourselves, we don't pay attention to ourselves and we don't want to see what we need. We put all our energy into caring for others, offering them all the understanding and attention that we are not willing to give to ourselves. In this way we lose our self-love and in this way we fill the void inside us.
“To love is to esteem”
– quote from Julius Caesar Jacob –
and consequently, if loving is esteem, love must be earned, train yourself to cultivate love for yourself, develop your passions, your interests and your talents.
We cannot receive all the beauty that others want to offer us if we do not feel worthy of receiving it; if we don't start loving ourselves. Furthermore, it is important to love ourselves in order to receive love from another person and believe in the love they can offer us.
“Only after finding myself can I help others.
And if I have to help someone, I must have complete understanding and, above all, infinite love.”-Krishnamurti-
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